It may feel like it, but you are not alone. Being a mom of 2, wife, employee, sister, daughter, etc. and on top of that, a people pleaser, it feels like my days consist of meeting everyone else’s needs and at the end of the day, I am too tired to focus on mine. Anxiety is normal ya’ll! It is a body’s response to deal with everyday threats and future stressful events. It can also happen at bad times or too often, which can lead to an Anxiety disorder. Learning to take care of anxiety on the spot can reduce future panic attacks, headaches, and give you peace of mind. Please keep in mind that I am in no way a doctor or professional, but having an anxiety disorder, I feel like the following 5 steps to be the most helpful…


BREATHE  |  I cannot stress this one enough. Can you believe that you actually have to remind yourself to breathe? And, when I say breathe, I mean deep breaths. Breathing in through your nose, count to 2, and let out through your mouth on 3. By doing this throughout the day can reduce your anxiety. YES, just by taking a moment to breathe!

PRACTICE MINDFULNESS  |  Mindfulness is something you hear about A LOT, but unsure of what it exactly is. Mindfulness is simply a mental state achieved by focusing your awareness on the present moment. Anxiety comes when you are anxious about something that will or will not happen in the future, so re-focusing yourself to the present will avoid your brain from playing tricks on you. You can focus on a smell, a touch, a feeling, a color, or even a sound. I know when I first wake up in the morning, my whole day plays out in my head and what I have to get done, before my feet even hit the floor. Focusing on the warmth of the sunlight coming through my window can bring me back to the present. When you are stuck in that traffic jam, and you have to be there in 10 minutes, look to your left and right. What do you see? I probably would notice a young man in a shirt and tie having his moment of fame, in his beat-up town car, rapping to old school Puff Daddy (or is his name P. Diddy now?). You get the picture!

ASK YOURSELF  |  Will worrying about this help me right now in any way? Do I have any control over the situation? Is your outcome you have in your head realistic? The answer to most of these questions is No. Normally Anxiety starts to arise because we are thinking of the absolute worst possible outcome. Another way anxiety can be brought on is assuming what other people are thinking. Lets face it, we are all self absorbed. If my boss were to say “Nicole, can I see you in my office when you get a chance?”, I automatically re-visit all my decisions in my head, and what I could possibly have done wrong. When I finally get the nerve to stand before him and he says “I’ll be out of the office on Friday, just wanted to let you know.” SERIOUSLY. That’s it? Now was all of that necessary? No. This was just one example of many we face with during the day. If I had just taken a second to ask myself, “Is this really likely to happen?” I could have saved myself a whole lot of misery.

POSITIVE SELF TALK  |  Comparing ourselves to others is never a good idea. We start to question ourselves. Once we question ourselves, it leads to a dark black spiraling hole of negative, self-destructive thoughts that it’s hard to climb your way out. Take one negative thought at a time and turn it into something positive. “I wish I was as successful as her” into “This is where I am at in my journey, and I can get there too with hard work and dedication”.

ESSENTIAL OILS  |  The reason I am bringing this up is because I am an ex-smoker of the stupid cancer sticks. When I would start to feel anxious, I would have that bad habit to rely on. My cigarette could be anything for anyone else. It could be self-harming, aggression, isolation, etc. Anxiety can also include mental and physical symptoms as well such as increased heart rate, panic attacks, nausea, sweating, and fear. Essential oils can help with most of these symptoms, and if nothing else at least have a better habit as a go-to. The most effective way to use essential oils for anxiety is to inhale or massage into skin. Below I listed the best single oils to help with Anxiety:

  • Lavender:
    • Widely used for its calming and relaxing qualities.
    • Helps to ease feelings of tension
    • Take internally to reduce anxious feelings
    • Can be inhaled or put directly onto skin either on back of neck or bottom of feet (diluted with coconut water)
  • Orange:
    • Before a stress filled day, diffuse for an energizing and revitalizing aroma
  • Lemon:
    • Diffuse or inhale to promote a positive mood
  • Focus Blend
  • Calming Blend
  • Massage Blend
  • Joyful Blend
  • Grounding Blend




*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.


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  1. I have chronic anxiety. I have it mostly under control, but sometimes it sneaks up on me. I use lavender and grapefruit EOs. I also take passionflower when it gets really bad. I have a pressure point on my hand that I squeeze and that seems to help too. I also do balancing yoga poses until the anxiety passes. It is not fun to deal with but I’m learning to manage.

    1. Yes, I didn’t realize myself until years ago when I was brave enough to start talking about it with others that I realized how common anxiety actually is!

  2. Great tips! I use all of these when I experience anxiety and can’t sleep without lavender oil in my diffuser at night.

    1. Hopefully you will be able to start incorporating at least some of these into your day. It’s hard to notice the symptoms until it is too late in some cases!